Recently a few people both in real life and online have commented that I'm brave to write so openly about our struggles with infertility. It wasn't something I always felt comfortable sharing. In the beginning when I just started going through it I felt a lot of shame. Over time after coming across a whole world of others online opening up about their stories, I started to change my attitude about it all. We shouldn't feel ashamed or embarrassed that we are struggling to have children, and if someone else is judgemental towards us then that is their issue, not ours. So many people (1 in 8 couples) are dealing with infertility these days and it helps when people can be open about it so that we all don't feel so alone.
One of the main things that has helped me to cope has been the amazing resource of blogs written by others going through it. The whole community is so supportive of each other which is really great. I also get very involved with everyone's lives and feel upset when they are struggling but am delighted for them when things are going well. I admire their strength and honesty. It's such a personal topic and I do feel quite vulnerable at times sharing some of our fertility struggles online but hopefully it might help other people and reduce the silence around the subject.
Anyway what I'm trying to say is thank you to everyone who has read my blog, whether you have commented or not but just sent some virtual support. You all rock!
I definitely find the blogging community an excellent source of support for all issues. I'm glad you've found the same.ReplyDelete
I haven't mentioned that we're trying on my blog because we haven't told any "real-life" people (except one friend) and some family members occasionally read my blog. If we actually end up needing fertility treatments I'll probably see how Jan feels about more people knowing.
yea I understand. I'd actually advise you to not tell too many people that you are trying as I remember some friends would ask me "any baby news?" when they would meet me which would bug me! And then they would also be watching whether I was drinking, stuff like that. They meant well, they just were super excited about me being pregnant and joining them in the baby club but it just made it harder for me as more time passed.Delete
I hope it will work out for you and you won't need to go down the path of fertility treatments, good luck :)
I specially found in Ireland people just don't want to know about your difficulties. I felt so so lonely and had nobody (local) to talk to. I truly wished it was different and me too delved into the online community where I found amazing people, some I even met in real life and it was like meeting old friends.ReplyDelete
Yea I find that with a lot of people too, that they just don't know what to say. It can just be an awkward topic I guess for them. It can be lonely sometimes, for instance when your friends get pregnant and you feel left behind. That's so nice that you also met up with people in real life from the online community!Delete
I'm so glad that you've found such support in the blogging community, and also that writing about your infertility journey is helpful to you. It has always been a way for me to process everything that's happened, and to feel not so alone. Even just sharing how alone you feel and then receiving comments of "I feel alone, too!" makes things more cope-able, if that makes sense. I'm glad you're here, writing your perspective! You make others feel not so alone either. :)ReplyDelete