tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post6784091749105872292..comments2024-03-24T18:54:00.885-07:00Comments on Dubliner In Deutschland: You don't have to love every seconddubliner in Deutschlandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16531838540641364420noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-40881772542733233362018-11-21T07:07:37.767-08:002018-11-21T07:07:37.767-08:00Thanks, I hope so too!Thanks, I hope so too!dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-71419461379607699682018-11-21T07:07:21.535-08:002018-11-21T07:07:21.535-08:00Thanks for the thoughtful comment. I definitely th...Thanks for the thoughtful comment. I definitely think people who have been through infertility struggle more with the idea that they are in some way ungrateful or not appreciative enough if they ever complain about any of the hard aspects of parenting! dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-82456894651490679252018-06-08T09:41:20.949-07:002018-06-08T09:41:20.949-07:00I am glad to hear you're getting the rhythm of...I am glad to hear you're getting the rhythm of things and conquering the parenting. I'm sure she'll grow into a bright young girl. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10656770582077959796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-82960172720621162542018-06-03T05:43:31.032-07:002018-06-03T05:43:31.032-07:00I think it's so important that people know tha...I think it's so important that people know that new parenthood is not all sunshine and roses and that it is really, really hard. That acknowledging that it's hard doesn't take away your gratitude for being there, but do you really need to be grateful for sleep deprivation and sore nipples? It's such a cruel dichotomy that so often those who struggled most to get to parenthood are implicitly told (or internalized) that they should be grateful for all the experiences and that any feelings of "oh dear lord this is awful" should be met with crushing guilt. It's not fair, and I'm glad that you are embracing the good and the difficult alike and sharing that it's just freaking hard. I've watched my friends go through it, and feel alone while breastfeeding exclusively in particular. That app looks great, what a wonderful thing to have ins and outs of tiny stages that can make such a difference behaviorally and give you a heads up on future hiccups! Sending you love!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-21645590995711192542018-05-28T07:22:07.902-07:002018-05-28T07:22:07.902-07:00I think I might have imagined parenting to be a lo...I think I might have imagined parenting to be a lot easier than it is actually! I didn't really think about the sleep deprivation aspect that much.Thanks for your comment :-)dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-32575863750675039682018-05-28T07:16:01.710-07:002018-05-28T07:16:01.710-07:00Thanks for your comment. I sometimes feel so guilt...Thanks for your comment. I sometimes feel so guilty about wanting a "break" but I find I'm a much better and patient parent if I manage to have a few moments to myself now and then! Trying to find a good balancedublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-61349629270633652382018-05-28T07:02:49.665-07:002018-05-28T07:02:49.665-07:00yea it does seem like every time I think I'm f...yea it does seem like every time I think I'm finding my groove and getting the hang of things, everything changes again and I feel clueless again! Mini is a screamer too! Sometimes she's all mellow and chilled but if she gets over tired, will scream the house down! But fights naps.. Haha, about the personal growth! I think I'm learning to be less self conscious anyway and just roll with the punches more. My husband is having to learn to be more flexible.dubliner in Deutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531838540641364420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-21299035047445888462018-05-28T06:58:03.442-07:002018-05-28T06:58:03.442-07:00Yes absolutely! I've been reminding myself tha...Yes absolutely! I've been reminding myself that this hard phase won't last forever and trying to appreciate the sweet moments when I can. I hear ya about being trapped under a sleeping baby for hours and not able to eat/drink or even use the bathroom. I try to make myself tea and grab some biscuits now before I sit on the couch with baby to feed just to have something to keep myself going. Mini had bad reflux and would make noises and not settle at night but as she has gotten older that has improved a lot! Hope it will be the same for your little guy!dubliner in Deutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531838540641364420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-88984915113232245332018-05-28T06:53:16.259-07:002018-05-28T06:53:16.259-07:00Yea several people told me recently that it gets a...Yea several people told me recently that it gets a lot easier once the babies are six months or so! And this week I've been managing things better toodubliner in Deutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531838540641364420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-11485432502965639612018-05-28T06:50:16.587-07:002018-05-28T06:50:16.587-07:00I've been working on trying to put her down sl...I've been working on trying to put her down sleepy at night in her cot hoping she'll only learn to self soothe but only having limited success so far. She won't take a soother, I tried several different brands! Mini has found her hands and chews them a lot but not her thumb yet.. maybe that will happen soon. She has been sleeping much better at night this week actually though so hopefully that will continue! dubliner in Deutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531838540641364420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-47950899059912095852018-05-27T23:15:10.475-07:002018-05-27T23:15:10.475-07:00I've never thought that parenting was going to...I've never thought that parenting was going to be all fun and roses and perfection, so - from someone who didn't get to join that club - you absolutely have the right to find it hard, and to complain about it! Guilt not allowed. lolMalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-49114195648817335282018-05-27T22:20:46.267-07:002018-05-27T22:20:46.267-07:00I completely relate. With my first daughter, I st...I completely relate. With my first daughter, I struggled with this perpetual happiness thing for ya least the first five months. Then I started letting myself feel and let go of always being grateful and happy... being sleep deprived alone is enough of an issue let alone breast feeding, hormone changes, recovery... and having a new person to care for! It’s hard. Having been through the trenches it’s easy to feel bad about not loving every moment... but you can’t. Having come through that experience will definitely make you a more mindful parent though, in the long run! Be kind to yourself and know it’s ok to need space!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14896931627340645963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-49520334494283322552018-05-23T19:58:09.554-07:002018-05-23T19:58:09.554-07:00firstly first it's okay to do what you can dofirstly first it's okay to do what you can doPupuk Hayati M-BIOhttps://bit.ly/2IhIzZXnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-35264580929503535162018-05-21T20:45:09.065-07:002018-05-21T20:45:09.065-07:00This is really funny. I remember the hard times wi...This is really funny. I remember the hard times with my daughter when she was an infant. She was a screamer! My husband worked 10 hour days and would leave for work days or weeks at a time. I always reminded myself that I asked for the baby! Parenting will make you find your grit, that's for sure. Prepare for exponential personal growth :)<br />Each stage presents new challenges, but it never gets any easier. First it's the crying and not sleeping, then it's the crawling and standing and getting into everything. Then it's tantrums and learning to talk.. it just changes and changes. Parenting requires a lot of strength, a lot of patience and a lots of perseverance. AMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14233574908888669866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-37960288302797025862018-05-21T14:58:53.842-07:002018-05-21T14:58:53.842-07:00Amen, sister! These days my son's (6 weeks old...Amen, sister! These days my son's (6 weeks old today) schedule is bizarre and hard to predict. Some days he just eats and eats, other days he sleeps and sleeps, and he seems gassy lately to the point that it wakes him up regularly. Sometimes he just fusses and fidgets at night for hours, even after we try to burp him and help him fart as much as we can. During the day he'll rarely sleep except on top of me, and right now he's been asleep for hours (on me on the couch), and it's killing my tailbone, and I'm hungry, and I'm just trapped under this adorable tyrant :P<br /><br />But I love him like crazy, and no phase will last forever, and I'm trying to take the good with the bad, and at the same time not pressure myself not to be massively annoyed when he's preventing me from eating and sleeping -- the very things that would enable me to be a better mom!<br /><br />It's just not easy these days without a "village" to take some of the pressure off. Still marvelous, but certainly not always a glamorous, effortless walk in the park!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-16966850366397224362018-05-21T07:45:35.773-07:002018-05-21T07:45:35.773-07:00It's totally ok to not love every second becau...It's totally ok to not love every second because sometimes it's just plain hard!! But it does get better for sure :)Amiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04738442092989090297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-42862241395995030272018-05-20T09:19:28.104-07:002018-05-20T09:19:28.104-07:00Isn’t it funny how it’s sometimes easier to reassu...Isn’t it funny how it’s sometimes easier to reassure someone else than yourself? I’m glad you made a connection with someone in your group. Glad the wonder weeks app is helping: i never paid much attention but it is true they change all the time and as a new parent especially you are improvisi g a lot of the time. Does Mini self soothe at all? Dani became much easier to put down when she learned to suck her thumb. Other people use a soother; we never really did so can’t comment. torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.com