tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post938968130957467560..comments2024-03-24T18:54:00.885-07:00Comments on Dubliner In Deutschland: Juggling act and living in limbodubliner in Deutschlandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16531838540641364420noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-85258930722655740822016-11-04T06:24:53.827-07:002016-11-04T06:24:53.827-07:00We have ended up having to postpone IVFs and treat...We have ended up having to postpone IVFs and treatment due to various things and sometimes I think maybe it would have been better if we'd gone ahead since so much time seems to constantly be going by (and decreasing my chances). But then on the other hand I enjoyed those holidays that we postponed for and have nice memories from them. I think you're right to keep trying because you would wonder otherwise. If you do manage to get pregnant then you can just figure everything else out and probably nothing else will seem as important then anyway! Sorry you're having trouble getting pregnant too. It sucks. Hope you will have a nice helpful doctor if you get a referral who'll be able to help! dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-9673968577197138852016-10-26T00:16:49.980-07:002016-10-26T00:16:49.980-07:00I have been thinking about this recently. My siste...I have been thinking about this recently. My sister has just announced that she's getting married at the end of August next year so if I get pregnant this cycle or next I'll either have a very tiny baby or be too pregnant to fly. I considered stopping trying for the next three months, but have decided I can't let my life revolve around other people's events. Besides, the chances of me getting pregnant on my own are very low at this point and I can't even get a referral until mid-November so it will probably end up being irrelevant anyway... and if I don't try I'll always wonder whether this would have been the one cycle that my body actually decided to sort itself out!Confuzzled Bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01471749871770054481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-16464776035887791932016-10-24T12:40:39.168-07:002016-10-24T12:40:39.168-07:00Thanks! That's the way I'm inclined to thi...Thanks! That's the way I'm inclined to think about it. If this could be our last chance at IVF then I want to try everything so that I won't have regrets afterwards. dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-8087899094166024512016-10-24T12:38:39.550-07:002016-10-24T12:38:39.550-07:00Thank you! The three years just feels so long now,...Thank you! The three years just feels so long now, and I hate the living in limbo aspect, trying to enjoy my life but still do whatever I can to try to have a baby. I remember that I really wanted to go to that German festival but then I was thinking if I were to catch some bug at it, then of course I wouldn't forgive myself for prioritising a silly event over our potential future child, but at the same time, you want to do some normal and fun things. SighdublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-34280469422908176242016-10-24T12:35:00.373-07:002016-10-24T12:35:00.373-07:00I'll try to look up what she wrote about it, t...I'll try to look up what she wrote about it, thanks. Yes I guess there is no "right" answer really so we'll just try to plan what suits us best and try to work around thatdublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-87784519039896950502016-10-24T11:56:41.530-07:002016-10-24T11:56:41.530-07:00I definitely do overthink things and worry about s...I definitely do overthink things and worry about some things that can work out ok in the end! Yea I think going through IVF away from my family is more difficult but then on the other hand it's also a lot more affordable here compared to Ireland. I remind myself though that living abroad there are always going to be weddings and big events that I'll have to miss. dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-48678469364863687942016-10-24T11:54:05.802-07:002016-10-24T11:54:05.802-07:00Thanks for your message. Actually no, the friend w...Thanks for your message. Actually no, the friend who suggested I forget about holidays etc hasn't gone through it so probably doesn't really understand how difficult it can be trying to still feel normal and live your life in between all the treatments and doctor's appointments! Yes round three could be my last shot at IVF as I think I am reaching my limit so I am inclined to give it all I can. I would like to get off this infertility rollercoaster soon. Unfortunately I don't know what my actual odds are. My last two IVF rounds weren't great as I seemed to be a poor responder but next time we would try a different protocol which may help.dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-42274216780311741142016-10-24T05:22:18.765-07:002016-10-24T05:22:18.765-07:00I agree, infertility is definitely like you're...I agree, infertility is definitely like you're in limbo. I hope you find the perfect balance for your family. If you are only planning on doing one more IVF cycle, then it might be best to pursue that 100%. At least I know in my mind I would want to make the best effort for my last real chance, because I wouldn't want to have any regrets. Good luck to you!!Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06990470734236967525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-19654867126310867372016-10-22T14:13:41.684-07:002016-10-22T14:13:41.684-07:00Oh, I get this so much. It is so hard not to weigh...Oh, I get this so much. It is so hard not to weigh out all the possibilities when you're in the middle of everything. (I still do in the middle of the adoption process, and that has zero to do with my actual body...) Logically you know so much is out of your control, but it's impossible not to try to grab on to things, to think on statistics and risks and what-ifs. I was never really able to live in the moment during IVF, so I have no amazing advice to give, other than that it really is true that if things don't work out it's impossible not to look for that thing that could have been different, and even if you know it's not really the German Festival or whatever, our minds have such a creepy ability to make us feel responsible for things so mysterious and uncontrollable, even with IVF. I would ask your doctor about flying to Ireland for the holidays. If they say it's fine, do it...but if you're not comfortable, go with your gut. THree years is an eternity. Limbo is no fun...I am hoping you don't have to stay there too long! Thinking of you as you head into your next opportunity! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-92167969370871353022016-10-22T05:10:39.914-07:002016-10-22T05:10:39.914-07:00I am pretty sure that Dani over at The Great Puddi...I am pretty sure that Dani over at The Great Pudding Club Hunt posted a while back on an analysis of data showing that people who flew during their first trimester had a decreased risk of miscarriage, or at least there was no evidence of increased risks (depending on how critically you interpret the data).... All of which to say-- there is no right or wrong here. Do what is best for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-19216988594659237782016-10-21T11:58:31.619-07:002016-10-21T11:58:31.619-07:00I can only sympathise because I never had to go th...I can only sympathise because I never had to go through the process myself, but I have a few friends who had. Luckily for them they were close to family and friends, so there was no travel issues. To be honest, I don't know what the answer is, only you know. Maybe you're just thinking too much and it's overwhelming(I do that all the time!!). Could your family come and visit instead? At least you'll still have support during the Christmas season...Anne Canaveerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12777690198291537441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6852337025953891596.post-5057014945254150822016-10-21T08:40:22.589-07:002016-10-21T08:40:22.589-07:00Dear Dubliner, it's so hard... the sensible pa...Dear Dubliner, it's so hard... the sensible part of me wants to say concentrate 100% on it, but you know my feelings on the auld limbo! I can understand your friend saying you should prioritise and forget about trips and flights etc but that is easy to say, has she been in the same boat? People might think three years isn't a long time, but when it includes IVF it's a lifetime: I totally get the way you feel. But to be honest I also get the feeling that doing round three with the intralipid infusion therapy represents to you your last best shot, in your mind, so I think you're right in leaning towards doing it. It all depends also on the chances of success: I gave up because mine were less that 10%. You can always base it on that, if you have that info. If you do do it, you won't ever be left wondering if you were wrong to give it up. Remember that it all feels so bloody overwhelming when you're looking ahead at it (how will I cope with work? trips? family visits? etc) but it's never as bad when you're actually doing it, I found. You'll find a way to balance things without it being too severe. Just hang in there and don't be too hard on yourself (everything in moderation, etc; it's easy to get into that mindset of everything you drink/put in your mouth is poison! I honestly don't believe that); I think it'll all pan out OK when you actually start it. https://differentshoresblog.wordpress.com/https://www.blogger.com/profile/16936131757889957955noreply@blogger.com